How do I deal with my estranged son?

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How do I deal with my estranged son?

Five Tips When Estranged and Cut Off From Your Child

  1. Get Support. Being cut off by your child, with no ability to understand, communicate and resolve things, is difficult enough.
  2. Don’t Cut off in Response.
  3. Don’t Feed the Anger.
  4. Listen to Your Child Without Defending Yourself.
  5. Focus on Yourself, Not Your Child.

What do you say to an estranged son?

Offer your son or daughter a heartfelt apology that acknowledges the pain you have caused them. Remember, apologize even if you believe your actions to be correct. The point is now about your child’s pain, not whether someone is right or wrong. You could say, “Tina, I’m so sorry I hurt you so badly.

How can I get my son to forgive me?

Follow these 7 steps the next time an apology is in order:

  1. Own your feelings and take responsibility for them.
  2. Connect the feeling to the action.
  3. Apologize for the action.
  4. Recognize your child’s feelings.
  5. Share how you plan to avoid this situation in the future.
  6. Ask for forgiveness.
  7. Focus on amends and solutions.

How long does parent/child estrangement usually last?

Nine years, average. Five-plus years for mothers, seven-plus for fathers. Less than five years, in most cases. All of these timelines have appeared in various research studies on estrangement between parents and adult children.

How can I repair my relationship with my son?

Fixing a Broken Relationship with Your Adult Child

  1. Remember you are dealing with an adult. While you may feel that just yesterday they were children, they are mature adults and should be treated with the respect they deserve.
  2. Acknowledge your contribution.
  3. Approach the situation with love.
  4. Be fair.
  5. Get support.

How do I forgive myself for hurting my child?

You may ask yourself if there are specific ways you can recall once hurting your children and decide to make amends to them. Ask peers what they recall of how you treated your kids and let your kids know what happened to them if they are ready to hear you.